Tantra , sex and misunderstanding

The Buddha realized that it is “not the results of human thinking, the ideas, beliefs, and formulas or the conceptual knowledge that matters, but rather the way, the method that leads to the results, the spiritual attitude behind them.” Here we see the definition of purity which the beginning Tantra student will do well to keep in mind. The spiritual attitude of reaching for attainment and growth brings purity.
From a pure heart comes pure love. This reads backwards also. From pure love comes a pure heart. If we could learn to have a pure heart we could practice pure love. If we strive to practice pure love, we are learning to have a pure heart. This goes for all aspects of our lives. According to Tantric philosophy , the process that bring life to earth is sex , so , one can well imagine how powerful this whole process of sex could be , and if one can channelize the whole energy that generates through love, sex and human connection , to the positive side of mind and body , one can attain a great plain of emotional as well as physical being .
Sex only degrades the degraded, only harms the harmful, is only evil to the evil, etc., and is a joy to the joyful, healthful to the healthy, illuminating to those who seek illumination. As in everything else, as ye seek, so shall ye find.
If we practise sexuality with the goal of creating illumination, health, and higher powers, we will produce those things. If we participate in sexuality with a bad attitude, guess what will be produced. Of course, we will then produce a bad attitude, reinforcing the one we already have brought into the session. Thus grows impurity. From a pure attitude grows purity. Sexual rituals at the beginning level are not pure at all and are pretty much just sex with a changing attitude, beginning the movement toward purity. This is what is needed to attainment of our highest goals. We do not walk out the door in the morning determined to be a Physicist with a Ph.d or a Medical Doctor and apply for a job accordingly. We must take all those little (and big) steps required for the years of training and practice needed to become what we aspire to. The same holds for purity. We must train and practice in order to attain our goal.